Why I wrote the ‘letter to parents’

My recent post/letter to the parents of A level students was a hit in terms of views. Now for those of you who have taken the time to look at my posts apart from that letter, I offer you some background to exactly why I wrote it.

Obviously the main reason is because that is what I genuinely feel. I have parents who spend a lot of time and money to do what is best for me so that I can have a good education. My teachers seem to have high hopes for me. And I’m scared for myself, as much as I am scared to let them down – to not be able to repay the investment they have made for me.

I currently have the results for an AS level, add maths and two IGCSEs, all of which I have managed to get the top grades. But the rest of most of my GCSE results are yet to come. No, I’m not an A level student. I’m not even going to be an A level student because I have decided to do the IB course. So why did I write it?

I wrote that post based on my experiences. I am not an A level student but I am familiar with the fears that exam students face from the people I know and the things I hear, because I have done various other exams in the past. I am familiar with the emotions that accompany the day of the exam and the results day. And I can only imagine with anxiety, that what I would be feeling on the actual day is going to be even greater that what I have felt in the past and what I currently feel.

I wrote it down as a way of expressing my own fears and that of my friends. I am a girl who is already fearing the results day two years from now (something tells me there’s something wrong with this). I don’t have the heart to say out loud what I wrote in that letter to my own parents. It’s kind of like a silent plea, really. I want to be relieved of the pressure of getting the best grades and the guilt I will feel if I don’t, and I wrote it in the hope that somehow people would understand that before I face that day when it comes. I hope that other people understand what students go through – if a girl like me can understand it, I hope other people in society can too.

There’s been a lot of views of that post – I have no way to speak to every single person who has viewed it to ask their thoughts on it. I hope that the number of shares it has had is an indication that there are other people who share my feelings and thoughts regarding the whole process of exams in general. If I have offended you, I apologize. Maybe you’re laughing at it; maybe you’re laughing at me now that you have discovered that I’m only a GCSE student (don’t believe everything on the internet guys). But if there’s anyone reading this, whether you’re a student, parent, or teacher, and you have any advice for me, and my friends, and other students who are worried, please send them my way. It will really be appreciated.

For those of you who did go through it all for real, I salute you with respect for the work you put in, and I sincerely hope that you find some form of happiness somewhere, what ever you decide to do.


One thought on “Why I wrote the ‘letter to parents’

  1. I haven’t read your ‘letter’, but I am now intrigued and I will go find it and read it- with all this in mind.
    It sounds like torture, what you have been going through. An insurmountable amount of pressure (self-perceived or otherwise) upon your shoulders. I don’t recall, thinking back, feeling pressure from my parents, nor my teachers – well, not to this extent. This seems tantamount to bullying/abuse.

    Perhaps I am wrong, but I fear for you.

    Just do the best you can. That is all you can do. I think we are a very young age when the education system forces our hand to determine our own fate. At that age do we know ourselves? Do we know what we want to do/be as an adult? I certainly didn’t. And I made stupid choices. Not that I was stupid, I was too young to decide. I thought I knew what I wanted in life.

    I remember getting the highest mark in Scotland for my Higher Art. And having an unconditional acceptance from two prestigious art schools. I turned them down to go to my neighbouring technical college to study engineering math. Which I have never try used in my professional life. I then studied organizational psychology with the OU. Never truly exploited that either. But art, has remained a hobby.

    Now I’m a professional photographer, with regrets of not going to art school…


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