It seems obvious when said, but during the holidays, I observed many people and their relationships with each other. And from those observations of people in relationships, I realised just how much people are different in their likes, causes of annoyance and their values.
There are people joined in their love for something; a hobby, say. Some are joined in their merry outlook on life. There were times when I marveled at the fact that one person could stand what I saw as some fault in the partner.
I guess that’s a good thing, or we’ll all be running after a particular type of person. This difference is what brings individuality to the world and that special uniqueness to relationships.
It was not long before I remembered to pull back from this third person perspective of other people – I am no different in that I am a person interacting with other people too. But what makes me different to other people? What is it about me that might attract one person but push away another?
I don’t know yet. Perhaps I never will fully know. But I think it won’t hurt to attempt beginning an exploration of who I am and what I value the most this year.
Sometimes, I watch a drama or a film of people together whether as a family, friends or lovers and I get a nice warm feeling inside as I marvel at the happiness and beauty of relationships. However, there are occasions when after watching those things, I feel an extreme feeling of loneliness as I find myself (unnecessarily) comparing my own life to that of others. Continue reading
It’s amazing how much friends can influence my emotions. Continue reading
Up ahead, the sky is depressingly dark. The dull metal-grey forms droop with heaviness that makes people begin to hurry. I forgot to bring my umbrella. Continue reading
My recent post/letter to the parents of A level students was a hit in terms of views. Now for those of you who have taken the time to look at my posts apart from that letter, I offer you some background to exactly why I wrote it. Continue reading
Dear parents of A level (or prospective A level) students,
I want to speak to you about something on behalf of many children who got their A level results today, or will do in future years.
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Today I was walking along the high street when I saw two people dressed in matching t-shirts who were holding leaflets in their hands which they offered to passers-by. This might have been something that I would forget about as soon as I walked past, but the unfamiliarity of the event struck me and I was left thinking about it for the whole journey home. Continue reading
I was watching a TED talk by Parul Sehgal titled “An ode to envy” which analyses jealousy in the context of literature. Although I do not agree with entirely everything that she says, I agree that there are many faces to this emotion that people and animals feel from a young age. It is a basic emotion that stems from our survival instincts to be loved by our mothers and to be the center of attention so that we have better chances of surviving. But of course, jealousy can be destructive – a cause for those horrifying stories on the news, and it can destroy relationships. Many religious teachings discourage this emotion because it can be a sign of a materialistic approach to life. But jealousy itself? It is a complicated thing.
It inspired me to write this poem that explores some of the qualities of jealousy;